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We are not welcome here
Jul. 10th, 2007 02:41 pmAfter my husband had a discussion with my stepdad it was deided that we would move out as soon as posible. Basically, we are supposed to adhere to every rule he sets because it is his house, and we have no say. There is no possible way we can live like that for a year.
He wants commitments from us, but does not offer anything in return. In his mind, we are still children who don't know any better. I have one word for that: Bullshit.
He even felt the need to tell me how to load a dishwasher. WTF.
I'm trying to be the "Adult" in this situation by not letting it bother me, but it's really hard to be treated like a second class citizen by my own family. It is putting strain on not only our marriage, but my parents' marriage as well. Mom is getting stressed out because she feels like she has to be the peacemaker and the martyr.
And talk about mature, after Jake talked to Eric and asked for commitments and that we were both upset and wanted a meeting, he hid out upstairs the entire evening to avoid us.
I'm just blown away by how spoiled he has gotten.
I feel like I'm looking after a small child when he is around. He doesn't cook, or get his own food, He just wants to do fun stuff with his grandchildren, and when they are done, he rarely cleans up after them. But if I have one thing out and the grandkids are coming over, then I somehow become an enemy and have to clean ASAP so the "kids won't get hurt". No wonder they're so sensetive and cry at anything wrong.
Just.... UGH.... I do love my family, I really do... I just don't like how things are progressing.
He wants commitments from us, but does not offer anything in return. In his mind, we are still children who don't know any better. I have one word for that: Bullshit.
He even felt the need to tell me how to load a dishwasher. WTF.
I'm trying to be the "Adult" in this situation by not letting it bother me, but it's really hard to be treated like a second class citizen by my own family. It is putting strain on not only our marriage, but my parents' marriage as well. Mom is getting stressed out because she feels like she has to be the peacemaker and the martyr.
And talk about mature, after Jake talked to Eric and asked for commitments and that we were both upset and wanted a meeting, he hid out upstairs the entire evening to avoid us.
I'm just blown away by how spoiled he has gotten.
I feel like I'm looking after a small child when he is around. He doesn't cook, or get his own food, He just wants to do fun stuff with his grandchildren, and when they are done, he rarely cleans up after them. But if I have one thing out and the grandkids are coming over, then I somehow become an enemy and have to clean ASAP so the "kids won't get hurt". No wonder they're so sensetive and cry at anything wrong.
Just.... UGH.... I do love my family, I really do... I just don't like how things are progressing.