Should Adoptee's Birth Record Be Opened?

[zanthess]

http://www.kirotv.com/family/14571532/detail.html#

This is an interesting article I found about a group that is rallying states to allow adult adoptees to find information about their birth parents. As a wife and sister-in-law and friend to a few adoptees, I think it would be great for them to find out where they come from. Not only will it help for closure on the birth parent's side, but it would also help paint a better genealogical map as to where they came from and what kinds of diseases they need to look out for.

I'm not adopted, so maybe I don't know what I'm talking about. I feel that I would at least want to know who my mother was, and to thank her for deciding to give me a better life she couldn't provide at the time

Comments

[faewren.livejournal.com]

Ok, this is just one of my weird quirks, but I can't use mother in connection to the woman who gave me birth. My mother is the one that raised me, that loved me, that taught me, and the one that calls me constantly just to know that I'm ok. She's my mother.

The woman who gave birth to me, who is a wonderful person, is my birth-mom or biological mother. I have met her, and it was a great experience. However, I met her as a full adult, with a life behind me and no confusion as to who my family was. I am SO glad I didn't meet her when I was younger and angry at my parents. That is not a can of worms to open.

I agree with the article about working to remove the stigma that is on adoption. I know so many, many people who would be ecstatic to be able to adopt, because they're unable to have children of their own.

Adoption is a wonderful thing. It gives women a chance to correct a mistake, babies a chance to have a better life, and others to become parents. Interesting article.

Sorry about the long reply.

[zanthess.livejournal.com]

No no I appreciate it. I'm still quite ignorant about feelings of adoptees and birthparents. The closest I can get is the weird feeling I got when I met my halfbrother for the first time when I was 18 and learned that I was an Aunt twiceover.

I've been just thinking about it a lot since my husband's birthmother has been in Washington for about a week.